As a Boomer parent, you may wonder if your adult children are taking advantage of you. It can be difficult to know for sure, but some signs can indicate that your children are not being respectful of your boundaries or your needs.
Here are 12 signs that your adult children may be taking advantage of you:
They constantly ask you for money.
Even if you have told them that you cannot afford to give them any more money, they keep asking.
They expect you to bail them out of financial trouble.
They may have made poor financial decisions, but they expect you to fix their problems.
They do not respect your boundaries.
They may come over to your house without calling, borrow your things without asking, or stay at your house for extended periods of time without contributing to the household.
They take you for granted.
They do not appreciate the things you do for them, and they may even be critical of you.
They are manipulative or guilt-trip you.
They may make you feel bad about yourself if you do not give them what they want.
They lie to you or deceive you.
They may not tell you the truth about their finances, their relationships, or their whereabouts.
They are disrespectful to you.
They may talk to you rudely or condescendingly, or they may ignore you altogether.
They use you for their own personal gain.
They may only come around when they need something from you.
They do not contribute to the household.
If they are living with you, they do not help out with chores or expenses.
They are not responsible or self-sufficient.
They may still rely on you for financial and emotional support, even though they are adults.
They are not making an effort to improve their lives.
They may be stuck in a dead-end job, or they may have a history of making bad choices.
You feel drained or stressed out around them.
Their behavior is causing you emotional pain and stress.
If you are experiencing any of these signs, it is important to talk to your adult children about their behavior. It is also important to set boundaries and protect yourself from being taken advantage of.
Here are some tips for dealing with adult children who are taking advantage of you:
- Set boundaries and be firm. Tell your children what you are and are not willing to do for them. Be consistent with your boundaries, even if they try to guilt-trip you or manipulate you.
- Communicate openly and honestly. Talk to your children about their behavior and how it is affecting you. Be clear about what you expect from them.
- Seek professional help. If you are struggling to deal with your adult children’s behavior, you may want to seek professional help from a therapist or counselor.
It is important to remember that you are not responsible for your adult children’s happiness or success. They are responsible for their own lives. You have the right to set boundaries and protect yourself from being taken advantage of.
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